Thursday, December 2, 2010

A Woman Should Have...

This is the bulletin board in Nancy's craft room...decorated a la Mary Engelbreit, whose art she loved. Aside from her crown (it's good to be Queen of your own craft room) and her cancer buttons, I noticed that she had tacked up a poem...I thought I'd share it.
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to …


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE…
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE…
a youth she’s content to leave behind…
a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to
re-telling it in her old age…


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE…
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE…
one friend who always makes her laugh
and one who lets her cry…


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE…
a good piece of furniture not previously owned
by anyone else in her family...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE…
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal.
that will make her guests feel honored…


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE…
a feeling of control over her destiny…


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship…


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW
when to try harder..
and when to walk away…


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that she can’t change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents…


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that her childhood may not have been perfect… but it’s over…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
what she would or wouldn’t do for love or more…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
whom she can trust,
whom she can’t,
and why she shouldn’t take it personally…


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
where to go…
be it to her best friend’s kitchen table…
or a charming Inn in the woods…
when her soul needs soothing…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
what she can and can’t accomplish in a day… a month... or a year…


Nancy did a pretty good job of living her creed. She may not have had a "juicy" past but she sure had a lot of fun...and there was that night at the Chinese restaurant! She had her own power tools and she knew how to use them. She cooked many a meal that made her guests feel honored, whether it was just Kit and Erin or her whole Gourmet group. Nancy had lots of friends to both laugh and cry with and they all loved her. Before she married Aaron, she had to learn to live alone and she did it well, while teaching full time and raising an amazing son. And even with cancer, she took control of her destiny and fought like hell. Nancy knew how to soothe her soul.
(The only area in which she may have let us down was in the lingerie department. A black lace bra??? Nancy's version of Victoria's Secret was a jog bra or t-shirt...no scratchy black lace for her!)

I'll share more quotes from Nancy's craft room on another post...school day tomorrow. And, by the way, this little blog has TEN followers now...I'm so excited! The fact that 8 out of 10 of you guys have no face is no problem for me at all...I'll keep writing anyway.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Funny Cheryl, when I read this I thought a lot about Grammie Smith and the similarities in her lifestyle. Not the juicy past or black lace bra (bad, bad visual) though. Her and Nancy had a common theme in the comfortable clothing attire!

Love,
Kathy

Cheryl said...

Nancy and Grammy did have a lot in common...you're right! They both were down to earth, liked plain old meat and potatos, and were strong, independent women who wouldn't be caught anywhere in black lace:-)